Thoughts Over Coffee

They say that time heals everything
But does it really ever start to heal
Or does the time just pass on near scars
Out shinning the older as time passes again

It doesn’t really feel that much better
In fact it almost starts to not feel at all
Until the final time when I finally reach
When I finally succeed at getting her

And when it finally comes to fruition
It feels like its the same merry-go-round
It’s a logistical detail in a bigger picture
While the numbness remains, I cant mention

As I walk in the door tonight
Heavy eyes and worn out body
Its great to be home to you
Feeling safe holding you tight

For the moments were brief
Yet as always seem longer
Still I hope when I’m away
My heart always feels grief

Your laugh some how seems to make my day
I want to tell you what it means to me
And how I want to work at putting a smile on your face
But thats just one of the many things I can’t say

Because its not really my place here
But with the grazing of your skin against mine
I want to get lost in you, to be entwined
But i need to stop, I want it to be clear

It cant happen this way, but there you go
The smell of your hair, not so far away
It smells so sweet, but I can’t tell you
It wouldnt be right for you or anyone else to know.

If all that you have now, is all that you need
Then its pretty clear, you’re not the one for me

For him not to be crazy about you outside and in
Bewilders everything I thought I knew, to no end

To hear that he forgot he was on the phone breaks my heart
Wehn you and me can’t seem to stop talking, once we start

Then to him being apart 5 years is no big deal
5 days for me and lonely and anxious is how I feel

And still you decide with him you’ll work and try
I’ll take my cue, that we’d never work and say goodbye

Rule 8, Make her seduce you

So you’re now 5-10 seconds into the first kiss. It’s going well, its been nice and light, with maybe a touch of tongue, but only a touch. Here is where we go back to something similar to step 5. After a few seconds just as both of you are just starting to get into the moment break the kiss. You’ll want to then just linger right there, at most an inch away from her. Just sit there and enjoy the moment, but also expect that it may be fairly intense in a few fashions.

Let yourself linger here for as long as the kiss was and perhaps longer, you want it to almost approach the awkward state. At this point you’ll want to lightly kiss her on the lips or maybe on the forhead and then lean back to where you were sitting 2 minutes ago.

Rule 8 seems simple enough, but the hardest part of it is most likely staying in control and not getting carried away, if you can do this, it will be the nail in the coffin. You’ll likely have given her something she considers a good if not great kiss, without you even realizing it, but you’ve also got her questioning again, and at this point she wants you, so she’ll try to get you. From here on out, just sit back and enjoy the ride.

As I get back to California
With the sun in my eyes, wind in my hair
And all would be right except
There’s one big problem you’re not there.

For you see to me, I’d give it up
All the sun, the beaches, the wine in Cali
And be more happy anywhere else
Just as long, as long as you were with me

Whether it was the pouring rain of Seattle
Or up in Boston in the snow and cold
Because the thought of waking up next to you
Each and every morning, just doesn’t get old

Though I suppose each may have their benefit
Take for example Miami
Because it’d be so hot and humid
I’d get to enjoy plenty of that skimpy bikini

But for today my home’s still California
And you’ll be herer soon enough I hope
Or else I’ll venture to where you are
Cause even in California, without you I couldnt cope.

As I tell you sweet dreams and say goodnight
This world seems slower and it feels right
For all this commotion, it seems to move steady
But it’s still clear that you’re not quite ready

It’s not something to hurry, cause I want you to know
That when you’re in my arms, you make me feel so
Alive and I just want to see that smile once more
So I’ll take tomorrow to be near you just like the one before.

Then again maybe it’s all just in my head
And we got caught up in a moment laying in that bed
But then as you quickly glance away from my stare
I see in your hazel eyes, you seem to really care

How much though? Does it even really matter?
I think I’m willing to wait, even risking my own heart shatter.
It’s definitely more than the curve of your hips
Or the soft sweetness of your lips.

It’s when I say some corny joke and you giggle
Or me tickling and holding as underneath you wiggle.
And all the someday things you want, just add on
To everything I feel with how this is gone.

So after that goodbye, I write these lines
Not saying that I feel like its destiny or any sign
It’s just that to me, that I think we’re both starting to feel
It’s something pretty true, pretty deep, pretty real.

Rule 7. Plant one on her

At this point things should be taking care of themselves. It should start to feel like a scene from a movie, not just to her but to you too. With rule 7 there’s no need to rush it, you’ve already caught her off guard, gotten her to express some physical interest, and now she’s in a whirlwind of a romantic setting. 

When you finally feel like either you can’t wait any longer, or that she’s had to wait plenty long enough, lean in an get your first kiss with her. But guys to give fair warning here, refrain as much as possible from what you want, try to be controlled and suave. This shouldn’t be at all rehearsed, but something to the effect of leaning over, brushing hair back behind the ear, and slowly leaning in would usually work pretty well. Couple things of note here, you want to still leave some things open to mystery here, so guys if you’re going to use a bit of tongue, only do this at the end and keep it light.

Rule 7 should seem pretty simple enough and it is, the hardest part is just being cool and reserved during it. The keys to rule 7 come in that basic point, and the surrounding two rules.

What do you do, when the one person you want
Doesn’t seem to want you 

How do you cope, when you finally realize
You’ve got to give up hope

You get in the shower, and head to work and wait
For minutes to tick off the hour

Picking up food and the drive through, but its all bland
When not sharing it with you

It feels empty inside, but the world goes on
Without anywhere to hide

And in the door walks you, looking past the callouses
Trying to breakthrough

Because you know what’s under, these scars and bruises
Is beauty, hope, wonder

But you can’t maintain, so after softening my skin
You leave with your own pain

And the cycle goes, someone else doing the same for you
All starting with the simplest of hurt and woes

Rule 6. Ease into suave mode

So far we’ve already come a long ways, she first started to ease into the date and you made her feel more comfortable, then you put things on a level playing field so she’s pursuing you as much as you are her. Now you gradually want to do the incredibly corny thing and start being slightly more suave. In between this you could say do dinner or something else, or you could transition straight to rule 6, depending on how you feel. So here you’ll want to use less creative things and just go straight for more traditional, pulling out some of her answers from rule 1 would probably be a good idea.

Basic ideas might be, 

• Bringing a boombox and her favorite cd, and  dancing under the stars
• Packing a laptop and her favorite movie and laying in an open field watching it
• Beach/lake settings are always good too.

Really anywhere that would be movie’esque is good, by now you can get away with cheesy romantic, and in fact she’ll most likely love it. So if you think it’s a cheesy or sappy idea, it’s probably a great one.